Self Love Archives

1 Thing to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do – About Anything

Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible. -Francis of Assisi Life is complicated. Experts tell you that you should, “just leave him, because he isn’t your husband.” Girls give these big long explanations about their emotionally unavailable, or ambivalent partners and the answer is always the same. "Leave him". Really dude? Not helpful. Do you think she hasn't thought about that? Do you think most people [...]

Carrie L. Burns2023-05-08T18:54:11+00:00May 8th, 2023|Change, Personal Growth, Self Love|

Maybe Life Is Hard and Maybe That’s Okay

"Where there is no struggle, there is no strength." - Oprah Winfrey Growing up my mom used to say, “Carrie, you never do anything easy the easy way, do you?” Nope. Never have. Probably never will. I have lived overseas and married a man from another country. I had my own apartment and a full time job at seventeen while I was still in high school. I put myself through college and law school. At [...]

Carrie L. Burns2020-06-04T23:40:52+00:00June 9th, 2020|Change, Personal Growth, Self Love|

How to Find Yourself When You Feel Lost and Lonely

“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” - Dr. Seuss Tonight I was walking home and there were two little girls with their father. One was on his shoulders and one was playing on her scooter. The little one was saying, “I’m on daddy’s shoulders” and she kept repeating it while the older one, who was maybe six was riding in front of [...]

Carrie L. Burns2020-01-09T21:02:50+00:00January 9th, 2020|Personal Growth, Self Love|

4 Things I Learned in My 40’s I Wish I Knew Sooner

"Being in your forties - any woman who isn't there yet, I just have to say to you: Euphoria is coming to you." - Tori Amos There are so many things I learned after I turned forty that I’m not sure I could even write them all down. Every decade of life brings more experience, more self-awareness, more truth and hopefully more understanding of yourself and others. Something magical that happens to women at the [...]

Carrie L. Burns2019-10-16T22:34:27+00:00October 17th, 2019|Personal Growth, Self Love|

One Way to Stop Feeling So Depressed All The Time

"Do not brood over your past mistakes and failures as this will only fill your mind with grief, regret and depression. Do not repeat them in the future."- Swami Sivananda Do you have a constant sense of malaise, depression, boredom or apathy that never seems to go away? Do you read books, try medications, listen to podcasts or attend seminars and never seem to feel better? Are you sick and tired of feeling sick and [...]

Carrie L. Burns2019-07-10T18:24:15+00:00July 1st, 2019|Change, Depression & Anxiety, Personal Growth, Self Love|

What Does It Really Mean To Love Yourself?

“Don't forget to love yourself.” - Soren Kierkegaard Do you know what it means to love yourself? We all want to fit in and feel like we belong. Many of us have that constant nagging little voice telling us we aren’t like everyone else. However, I often wonder, does everyone have that nagging voice or only some of us? What is so wrong with being different, with not being what others consider normal? Albert [...]

Carrie L. Burns2019-04-14T17:40:29+00:00February 23rd, 2019|Change, Personal Growth, Self Love|

Coping in the World When You’re Emotionally Intense

"Poetry is not a turning loose of emotion, but an escape from emotion; it is not the expression of personality, but an escape from personality. But, of course, only those who have personality and emotions know what it means to want to escape from these things." - T. S. Eliot Are you emotionally intense? Do you feel like you’re just “too much” for most people? Do you worry that everything you feel comes in massive [...]

Carrie L. Burns2019-04-14T17:58:13+00:00January 16th, 2019|Personal Growth, Self Love|

What is Self-Love and Where Do You Find It?

"We often fancy that we suffer from ingratitude, while in reality we suffer from self-love." - Walter Savage Landor There are so many self-help articles, books, blogs and dating coaches talking about self-love and how you have to have self love before you can find a partner, be your best self, get the right job, make your way in life. Self-love this. Self-love that. But, what exactly is self-love and how do you find it [...]

Carrie L. Burns2019-04-14T18:00:58+00:00September 16th, 2018|Personal Growth, Self Love|

What Everybody Ought to Know About Introverts

“I don't want to be alone, I want to be left alone.” - Audrey Hepburn Anyone who’s an extrovert won’t get this post at all. However, if you have a friend or loved one who is an introvert you may want read it. The original meaning of the words "extrovert" and "introvert" are different than what we consider them to be today. Today people consider an extrovert as someone who is social and outgoing, while [...]

Carrie L. Burns2019-04-14T18:01:47+00:00August 1st, 2018|Personal Growth, Self Love|

To All The Fatherless Daughters

"Like the singing bird and the croaking toad. I got a name, I got a name. And I carry it with me like my daddy did. But I'm living the dream that he kept hid."- Jim Croce To all the Fatherless Daughters. To all my friends who didn't know what it was like to have a father teach you how to ride a bike and throw a baseball and drive a car I'm truly sorry. To all [...]

Carrie L. Burns2019-04-14T18:07:23+00:00September 23rd, 2016|Personal Growth, Self Love|