"My whole philosophy is about doing, not talking." - Sally Ride I'm going to explain why you shouldn't follow the thirty day No Contact Rule If there's one thing I hate, it's being ignored. Being ignored triggers my childhood issues of not feeling seen or heard and makes me extremely anxious and irritated. A surefire way to get me to never talk to you again and to despise your very existence is to ignore me. [...]
"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option." - Mark Twain Some days I wonder, how many times can you give your heart away without return before it breaks for good? How many times can you feel like you give of yourself and get nothing back? How many days can someone feel ignored and pushed away before they go away for good? How many days can someone try to [...]
"We don't develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity." - Barbara De Angelis If you're in a relationship your man is going to pull away from you at some point and if you make certain mistakes you're going to push him away further. So, how are you going to deal with it when it happens? The other day I found myself on the end of [...]
“Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we're settling for.” - Mandy HaleIf your partner broke up with you do you want them back because they’re really the right person for you or you are feeling rejected? Did they treat you well when you were together or are you recreating old patterns that feel comfortable but no longer serve you? When my [...]
“Don't forget to love yourself.” - Soren Kierkegaard Do you know what it means to love yourself? We all want to fit in and feel like we belong. Many of us have that constant nagging little voice telling us we aren’t like everyone else. However, I often wonder, does everyone have that nagging voice or only some of us? What is so wrong with being different, with not being what others consider normal? Albert [...]
I must admit, there was a time when I was questioning my relationship and I thought of leaving so I read this book entitled Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay. Honestly, I believe the author did a very thorough job, gave great examples to support her positions and overall wrote a really helpful book. So many of us are faced with the dilemma of whether to leave a relationship or not. Sometimes you [...]
“The desire to love someone always exceeds the desire to be loved by someone & that's exactly why we end up loving the person who doesn't deserve that LOVE.”― Anirban Bose, Bombay Rains, Bombay Girls Can we have a little girl talk for a minute? Can we talk about the reality of having an affair and being a mistress? Can we talk about the truth of what's going on and how its affecting you and [...]
Do you wonder why you’re never happy with your partner once you get into a committed relationship? Do you find that you start blaming them for not meeting your needs, but you fail to express it outwardly and it turns into resentment and anger? Do you find yourself repeating the same patterns over and over and you’re starting to realize that maybe you’re a part of the problem? Have you read all the expert advice [...]
"Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can come together" - Marilyn Monroe If anyone has been through break-up heartache- it’s me. I’m on my sixth long term relationship. Every time I went through a break-up, I thought the world was ending. I thought they were the only one. I thought certainly there must be a mistake. I thought they were the one for me and I must be completely in the wrong, right? [...]
"Commitment is an act, not a word." - Jean-Paul Sartre Let me be clear here, a guy who is scared of commitment isn’t the same as a commitment Avoidant guy. Steer clear of anyone who is deeply afraid (more than scared) of commitment. I dated a man for two and a half years who would never fully commit even though we spent every major holiday together, he stayed at my house and I stayed at [...]
